Virtual EMDR Therapy for Women in NC
SHAME
Shame shows up quietly and loudly.
Most women don’t walk into therapy saying, “I struggle with shame.”
They say,
“I feel like I’m failing.”, “I’m embarrassed about __”, “I can’t stop apologizing.”, “I can’t forgive myself.”, “I’m scared to be myself.”, “Everyone thinks I’m okay, but I’m exhausted.”, “I hide behind humor, perfectionism, being the strong one…”
Shame is not who you are.
Shame is a protective response to old wounds, old messages, and old expectations that never belonged to you.
Why Do You Feel Shame?
Shame often begins long before adulthood. It can form in families where you were expected to be the “good girl,” stay strong, stay quiet, or take care of everyone else’s emotions. Maybe you learned early that your needs were too big, your feelings were inconvenient, or mistakes were unacceptable. Maybe you grew up under criticism, emotional neglect, chaos, or roles you were never meant to carry. Shame also shows up after loss, betrayal, trauma, or moments when no one was there to help you make sense of what happened. Over time, these experiences teach you to turn inward and blame yourself, creating the belief that something is wrong with me. Therapy helps you understand that this belief was learned — not earned — and it’s absolutely possible to unlearn it.
What Healing Shame Can Feel Like
As shame softens, women often describe feeling:
more confident
more grounded
less reactive
more connected to themselves
able to set boundaries without guilt
capable of being seen without panicking
less apologetic, more expressive
able to rest, slow down, and breathe
comfortable taking up space
Shame steals your voice.
Healing gives it back.
How I Help
In our work together, you don’t have to perform or pretend.
You can bring the messy parts, the parts you hide, the parts you’ve been told are “too sensitive,” “too emotional,” or “not enough.”
All of your shades are welcome here.
I use a blend of evidence based modalities to target your shame; depending what the source of the shame is.
EMDR Therapy to target experiences and messages that created shame and help your brain release them. Somatic work to recognize, sooth, and shift the sensations in your body so they no longer control you. Compassion-Focused Therapy to learn how to meet yourself with the love and non-judgemental beliefs.
Together we will help you reconnect to your wants, needs, and find your own voice.
You deserve to feel whole, worthy, and enough; without earning it
If you’re curious about working together, start with a free 15-minute consultation call.
We’ll talk about your needs, my approach, and what your goals are. If it feels like a good fit, we’ll schedule your first session.